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Fellatio: "Oral stimulation of the penis, esp. to orgasm,"
Fellatio: "Oral sex on the male member effected by introducing the penis into the mouth and sucking on the organ while moving the head up and down to emulate the motions of copulation and continuing to the point of orgasm,"
The difference between fellatio and oral sex: Fellatio is oral sex upon a man (not a woman). Oral sex can be performed upon a man or a woman.

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cunnilingus
Definitions: oral stimulation of woman's genitals: sexual stimulation of a woman's genitals using the tongue and lips

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cunt
Definitions: 1. a highly offensive term for a woman's genitals

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anal
Definitions:

1. anatomy relating to anus: relating to or situated near the anus

anal intercourse

Definitions:

sexual intercourse through anus: a form of sexual intercourse in which a man puts his penis into the anus of a man or woman.

 

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penetrate

1. transitive verb insert penis into something: to insert the penis into a vagina or anus

penetration
insertion of penis: the insertion of the penis into a vagina or anus

 

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fuck
Definitions: 1. transitive and intransitive verb a highly offensive term meaning to have sexual intercourse with somebody

genital

Definitions:

relating to sex organs: relating to the external sexual organs or to reproduction


genitals
Definitions:

reproductive organs: the reproductive organs, especially the external sex organs

hard-core
2. showing explicit sex: depicting sexual acts in an explicit way

Phone Sex
Phone sex is a type of virtual sex that refers to sexually explicit conversation between two or more persons via telephone , especially when at least one of the participants masturbates or engages in sexual fantasy or arousal. Phone sex conversation may take many forms, including (but not limited to): guided, narrated, and enacted suggestions; sexual anecdotes and confessions; candid expression of sexual feelings or love; and discussion of very personal and sensitive sexual topics.

 

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Roleplay
role-play (rlpl) v. role-·played, role-·play·ing, role-·plays v. tr. To assume or represent in a drama; act out: “Participants are encouraged to pass on leads about jobs... and to role-play interview situations with each other” (Hatfield MA Valley Advocate). v. intr. To assume or act out a particular role: “When I hire people I role-play with them... to see how they take pressure” (Peter Schrag).


sex toys

A sex toy is a term for any object or device that is primarily used in facilitating human sexual pleasure. This term can also include BDSM apparatus

Tease and Denial

Sometimes called "Arouse and Deny" or "Orgasm Denial". This is the process of bringing a male to a state of extreme sexual arousal and then preventing or disallowing his orgasm. Fetishes can be useful to help build his state of arousal. The tease and deny premise underpins the contents of this website. All of a male's most productive training takes place after he has been subjected to this process for an extended period of time. During the process it is often effective to let the male believe that he might be allowed to reach orgasm. Working on this premise, he will be more involved in the process, more eager and ultimately more aroused. The denial process can be overt, such as simply pushing him away right before he ejaculates, or subtle, such as arranging for friends to come over at a certain time thus forcing an interruption.

blow job

term for an act of fellatio


eat

term meaning to perform oral sex on somebody

head
term for an act of performing oral sex on somebody

sixty-nine
term for a sexual activity in which two people simultaneously stimulate each other's genitals orally

scrotum
pouch containing testicles: the external pouch of skin and muscle containing the testes in mammals. It allows sperm to develop at a temperature lower than that of the body.

sound
3. transitive verb medicine examine something with probe: to use a surgical probe to examine a body cavity or passage such as the bladder or to dilate a constriction

domination
Definitions:

1. controlling power: control, power, or authority over others or another

submissive
Definitions:

ready to submit to others: giving in or tending to give in to the demands or authority of others

cohabiting sexual partner: a sexual partner living in the same house with somebody


Abstinence. Refraining from all sexual activity

Adultery. Sexual intercourse between a man and woman who are not married to each other.

Anal intercourse. Using the rectum instead of the wife's vagina for sexual intercourse. Among homosexual men, anal intercourse is a primary sexual activity.

Bestiality. Sexual activity between humans and animals, including masturbation and sexual intercourse.

Bisexual. Engaging in sexual activities with members of both sexes.

Chaste sex. Sexual intercourse between husband and wife after marriage

Clitoris. A small erectile organ located in the forward area of the wife's vulva. Stimulation of the clitoris during foreplay and sexual intercourse can enhance the wife chances of an orgasm.

Conception. The point at which the husband's sperm unites with the wife's egg, causing life to begin.

Condom. A thin balloon-type device which is worn over the husband's erect penis during sexual intercourse to prevent conception. The ejaculated sperm is caught by the condom so it does not enter the vagina and make it's way to the wife's egg. Persons engaging in illicit sex also use condoms to prevent sexually-transmitted diseases such as AIDS.

Contraceptive. Any device, product, or process which prevents conception.

Cunnilingus. Stimulation of the wife's genital area, especially the clitoris, with the husband's lips and tongue. During foreplay. continued cunnilingus is likely to cause the wife to experience an orgasm. Among lesbian women, cunnilingus is a primary sexual activity.

Desire. The normal, natural need felt by husband and wife to have sexual intercourse, especially during foreplay.

Dildo. A penis-shaped rod, often covered with rubber and even containing a variable-speed vibrator

Dreams, erotic. Dreams about sexual activities, sometimes connected with someone other than a spouse.

Ejaculation. The high point of the husband's orgasm when semen spurts from the penis.

Ejaculation, premature. The husband having an orgasm during foreplay or during the insertion of the penis into the wife's vagina, before actual thrusting has begun.

Erectile. Tissue with blood vessels which fill during the sexual excitement caused by foreplay. The husband's penis and the wife's nipples and clitoris contain erectile tissue.

Erection. The rigid state of organs which contain erectile tissue. The husband's penis becomes erect so it can enter the wife's vagina for sexual intercourse. The wife's clitoris becomes erect so it has a better chance of remaining in contact with the husband's penis during the thrusting of sexual intercourse, thereby increasing the wife's chance of experiencing an orgasm.

Erogenous zone. Any area of the body which is sensitive to sexual stimulation during foreplay. Common erogenous zones include, but are not limited to, the genitals, breasts, and nipples. Other areas with potential for sexual stimulation include the ear lobes, neck, back, and buttocks. Experimentation and open communication between husband and wife is necessary to assure the location of favorite erogenous zones.

Erotic. Anything which is sexually stimulating.

Fantasize. Thoughts which are sexually stimulating. Married persons must limit their sexual fantasies to their spouse. Unmarried persons should avoid sexual fantasies altogether, as they lead to lust.

Fellatio. The wife's kissing, licking, and sucking the head and shaft of the penis during foreplay. Continued activity of this type will cause the husband to ejaculate. Homosexual men use fellatio as a primary sexual activity.

Foreplay. Any action which causes increased sexual excitement before sexual intercourse. Foreplay should be continued until the wife requests the husband to insert his penis into her vagina. As a rule, when she senses her body is ready for sexual intercourse, the vagina will be dilated and the vulva will be moist. The husband usually needs less foreplay than the wife; sometimes, he needs none.

Fornication. Sexual intercourse between unmarried persons; also known in scripture as "sexual immorality."

Gay. A contemporary term for a male homosexual.

Genitals. The external sex organs. For the husband, they include the penis and the testicles. For the wife, it is the vulva.

Harassment, sexual. Unwelcome and unsolicited sexual activity or sexually-oriented comments. Sexual harassment is sin as well as illegal.

Heterosexual. Sexual activity between persons of the opposite sex.

Homosexual. Sexual activity between persons of the same sex.

Hymen. A thin membrane which covers the opening to a virgin's vagina. The hymen does have a small opening which permits douching and the use of tampons but not sexual intercourse. When the hymen is broken on the honeymoon during sexual intercourse, some pain and slight bleeding may occur.

Illicit sex. Any sexual activity which is outside the bounds and bonds of legal marriage.

Impotence. The inability of the husband to achieve and maintain an erection. This condition is usually temporary and is often associated with illness, stress, or medication for such conditions as hypertension (high blood pressure). A dildo or vibrator can be substituted for an erect penis if both busband and wife are willing.

Incest. Sexual activity between members of the same family.

IUD (Intrauterine device). An object which is inserted at the mouth of the uterus (womb) to prevent conception.

Lesbian. A female homosexual.

Lubricant. A cream designed for use in the genital area to eliminate chafing during foreplay and to help insertion of the husband's penis into the wife's vagina for sexual intercourse. Consult your pharmacist for an appropriate product. KY Jelly is a popular personal lubricant.

Lust. Feelings of sexual desire between unmarried persons of the opposite sex or between any persons of the same sex. Sexual desire between married persons is always normal and natural. Lust is always sin.

Masochism. Experiencing sexual stimulation by receiving pain, usually during foreplay. See "Sadism".

Masturbation. Self-stimulation of the penis or clitoris to the point of orgasm.

Masturbation, mutual. A form of foreplay where the wife stimulates the husband's penis while the husband stimulates the wife's clitoris. This activity may be used as a temporary alternative for sexual intercourse.

Molestation. Unwelcome touching of another person's body in a manner designed to communicate or arouse lust.

Natural Family Planning. Birth control based on refraining from intercourse during the time of the wife's monthly cycle when pregnancy is possible. Modern natural family planning is far more reliable than the old rhythm or calendar method, and is based on a normal discharge of cervical mucus, and changes in a wife's waking temperature.

NIV. New International Version; a modern-language translation of the Bible.

Nocturnal emission. An involuntary ejaculation of semen during sleep. This happens about once a month for virgin boys who do not masturbate.

Obscenity. Visual and auditory materials designed to arouse feelings of lust, as specified by the Supreme Court in Miller v. California, 1973. Obscene materials are characterized by sharply focused and detailed representations of all degrees of sexual activity: men with women, men with men, women with women, adults with children, humans with animals, groups having homosexual and bisexual sex with each other. Activities include vaginal, oral, and anal intercourse.

Oral sex. Foreplay which involves using the mouth, lips, and tongue to stimulate the spouse's genitals. Oral sex must be based on mutual satisfaction.

Orgasm, climax. The psychological and physical high point of sexual activity. The husband's orgasm involves spasmodic ejaculation of semen over a period of several seconds. The wife's orgasm may include abdominal spasms. All healthy husbands and wives will reach an orgasm because of extended foreplay and/or sexual intercourse. The wife can experience orgasm because of stimulation of her clitoris, penile thrusting in her vagina, or any combination of the two activities.

Pedophile. A person with an insatiable desire to have sex with children. Pedophiles are convinced their actions are normal; they like to collect and exchange pictures of their victims, and they lie very convincingly in the face of investigation or prosecution.

Penis. The primary male sex organ. During foreplay, the erectile tissue in the husband's penis fills with blood and it becomes erect and hard. This enables it to enter the vagina and deliver an ejaculation of semen within swimming distance of the wife's egg.

Phone sex. Masturbation while talking to another person about sexually stimulating topics. Phone sex for hire usually includes simulated response on the part of the payee.

Pornography. Material which is designed to arouse lust but which does not meet the legal definition of obscenity according to Miller vs. California. As a rule, pornography is less explicit and crude than obscenity. Neither are conducive to wholesome Christian living.

Rape. Forcing sexual intercourse upon an unwilling partner.

Rape, date. Forcing sexual intercourse upon an unwilling partner, preceded by social interaction and even foreplay.

Rhythm method [Calendar Method]. A 1930s means of birth control which involves limiting sexual intercourse to those times in the wife's menstrual cycle when she is least likely to conceive. Not to be confused with Natural Family Planning [NFP].

Sadism. Receiving sexual stimulation by giving pain, usually during foreplay. See "Masochism" .

Safe sex. A misnomer which involves wearing a condom during homosexual or heterosexual intercourse as a means of avoiding contracting an STD. There is no "safe" illicit sex. The failure rate of the best condoms is estimated to range between 10 and 20 percent.

Semen. The fluid which contains the sperm as it is ejaculated from the penis during the husband's orgasm.

Sexual activity. This is the term that should have been used by the court in the Paula Corbin Jones/Clinton matter. Any activity or combination of activities designed to cause sexual excitement which, if continued, will cause orgasm for one or both parties. Sexual activity includes but is not limited to: oral sex, vaginal intercourse, stimulating [with the hands or mouth] the penis of the man or the breasts and vulva of the woman.

Sexual immorality. A general term in scripture referring to intercourse between unmarried persons; fornication.

Sexual intercourse, conjugation. Inserting the husband's erect penis into the wife's vagina, usually associated with thrusting to the point of orgasm.

Sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs). Any disease, such as AIDS, which can be passed to another person during sexual activity. The classic STDs are syphilis and gonorrhea. A common modern STD is genital herpes.

Sperm. The husband's contribution to conception. Sperm can "swim" to unite with the wife's egg after being ejaculated into her vagina.

Spermacide. A birth control product designed to kill the sperm in the vagina before they can reach the wife's egg.

Testicles. The husband's sex organs which create the sperm and secrete testosterone, the male sex hormone.

Trimester. Three months of a pregnancy, usually expressed as first, second, or third trimester.

Vagina. A channel of moist tissue between the vulva and the mouth of the uterus.

Value-free sex education. Telling students about the biology and mechanics of sex without the Bible's moral absolutes which control sexual behavior.

Viagra. It has been estimated that up to 30 million American men suffer from sexual dysfunction (impotence). Until recently, sexual dysfunction has been effectively treated with injections, surgery, and other procedures, many of which are painful and embarrassing. In March 1998, the FDA announced that Viagra® a new drug from Pfizer, Inc., has been approved as treatment for male sexual dysfunction.

Vibrator. A penis-shaped battery-powered device designed to stimulate the vulva, clitoris, and vagina during foreplay. There is a theory that for some couples, excessive and extended use of a vibrator may make it increasingly difficult for a wife to respond to her husband during non-mechanical foreplay and sexual intercourse. May be useful during impotence. You can buy one on the Internet; just enter dildo or vibrator into any search engine. One with a vibrator should cost about $30 US.] Warning:you may get into some very unsavory sites. Just buy what you are looking for and get out! See dildo.

Virgin. A woman or man who has never had sexual intercourse.

Vulva. The wife's primary external sex organ. The vulva includes two sets of lip-like folds of tissue known as the labia. The inner labia (lips) enclose (from front to back) the clitoris, the urethra (for excreting urine, and the vagina. The outer lips are covered with pubic hair.

Vasectomy. A simple operation on the husband in the doctor's office which acts as a relatively permanent form of birth control. In a vasectomy, the tubes which lead from the testicles to the penis are cut by making small incisions in the scrotum. Because of this operation, the sperm which the testicles create cannot be mixed with the semen during ejaculation. There is no physical reason why the husband cannot continue to have a normal erection during foreplay and cannot enjoy sexual intercourse. The best time for a vasectomy is while the wife is pregnant with the last child. This will give the husband's body time to cleanse itself of all sperm before the first ejaculation during sexual intercourse after the baby is born.

Withdrawal. A means of birth control which calls for the husband to pull his penis out of his wife's vagina before sexual intercourse reaches the point of his ejaculation. This is considered to be an unreliable means of birth control. Some drops of semen may ooze from the penis before the first spasm of an ejaculation, or the first spasm may come with insufficient warning to permit complete withdrawal before some semen enters the vagina. If semen is ejaculated at the mouth of the vagina, some sperm may swim upstream and unite with an ovum. It only takes one of each to cause a pregnancy.
 

Female Sexual Dysfunction Terms



Anorgasmia: The inability to achieve orgasm.

Apomorphine: A drug that acts to increase genital blood flow and smooth muscle relaxation that is currently being tested as a treatment for female sexual arousal disorder.

Clitoris: A small erectile organ situated toward the front or top part of the vulva (vaginal exterior). During sexual arousal, the smooth muscles within the clitoris relax and the arterial wall dilates, increasing blood flow. A woman's difficulty or inability to achieve blood flow to the clitoris is a symptom of female sexual arousal disorder.

Contraindications: A symptom or condition that makes a particular treatment or therapy inadvisable.

CTD: A clitoral therapy device, such as the Eros™ Therapy.

Endometrial cancer: Cancer of the uterus lining.

Engorgement: This occurs when the clitoris fills with blood. Also known as "tumescence."

Erectile dysfunction: The lack of blood flow to the penis causing the inability to achieve an erection.

Estrogen: A female sex hormone that stimulates the development of female sex characteristics, or physical characteristics not directly associated with reproduction, such as breasts.

Female Sexual Arousal Disorder or FSAD:The persistent or recurrent inability to attain or maintain sufficient sexual excitement, causing personal distress. It may be expressed as lack of subjective excitement or a lack of genital (lubrication/swelling) or other somatic responses. FSAD is a type of Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD).

Female Sexual Dysfunction or FSD: The persistent inability to attain or maintain adequate genital lubrication or swelling responses resulting in personal distress. FSD includes problems associated with sexual desire, arousal, orgasm and pain.

Fibroid: A benign tumor made up of fibrous and muscular tissue that especially occurs in the uterus wall.

Fibrosis: The scarring and stiffening of tissues.

Genitals: Reproductive organs such as the vagina in women and the penis in men.

Hormonal Replacement Therapy (HRT): Oral medication consisting of the hormones estrogen, progestin and/or testosterone given to menopausal and post-menopausal women to prevent vaginal atrophy, sexual dysfunction, hot flashes, osteoporosis and incontinence.

Hysterectomy: Surgical removal of the uterus.

Incontinence: The inability to control urine leakage. Can be caused by an estrogen deficiency or by nerve damage through hysterectomy surgery. Incontinence can cause FSAD.

Libido: A desire for sex, or sex drive. Menopause: The period when a woman permanently stops menstruating and is no longer able to conceive. During this period, a woman's ovaries stop producing the hormones estrogen and progesterone. The average age of natural menopause is 50 years old, however, women who have had surgery to remove reproductive organs (such as a hysterectomy) may experience menopause at an earlier age.

Off-Label Drug: Drugs are approved by the Food and Drug Administration to treat particular conditions because they have been shown to be safe and effective. However, medical professionals may use the same drug to treat other conditions for which safety and effectiveness has not been clinically proven. This ‘unapproved’ use of the drug is considered ‘off-label.’

Orgasm: The climax of sexual excitement.

Perimenopause: A time of gradual changes leading up to and following menopause. Hormone changes during this time may result in changes in menstrual flow patterns, hot flashes, anxiety, irritability, fatigue, decreased libido and sleep problems. Perimenopause may start as early as 40 to 45 years of age.

Phentolamine: A drug that acts to increase genital blood flow and smooth muscle relaxation that is currently being tested as a treatment for female sexual arousal disorder.

Postmenopausal: Having already undergone menopause (as in "a postmenopausal woman") or occurring after menopause (as in "postmenopausal osteoporosis").

Prostaglandin: A drug that has been shown to increase penile blood flow in men is now being tested for use in vaginal gels and sprays to treat female sexual arousal disorder.

Progesterone: A female sex hormone that regulates reproductive functions.

Sexual Dysfunction: Physical and mental difficulties with arousal, lack of desire, fear of intimacy and overactive sexual activity. Difficulties may be persistent, recurring or once in a lifetime. See also Erectile Dysfunction.

Testosterone: A male sex hormone causing the development of the male reproductive system and secondary sex characteristics.

Tumescence: This occurs when the clitoris fills with blood. Also known as "engorgement."

Uterus: A muscular organ found only in the female in which the baby develops before birth.

Vaginal Atrophy: The thinning, drying and irritation of the vaginal lining in menopausal women.

Fetish Terms

Fetish, noun [c] excessive or irrational devotion to some activity, a sexual interest in an object or a part of the body which someone is interested in to an extreme degree of worship with excessive devotion...



Algolagnia- Another word for sadomasochism (SM) Algolagnia is when pain is transformed into sexual pleasure.

Alternative sexuality- A sexual orientation with a few variations that differ from vaginal intercourse when a monogamous heterosexual relationship has been established.

Alternative lifestyle- Sexual preference that is very different from the "norm," making it necessary and/or desirable. If the alternative sexuality is less common than the norm it will push the individual to reach an accepted subculture.

Animal play- When one or both partners pretend to be an animal (Ex: dog, horse) in a role play.

BDSM- In the beginning it was called Sadomasochism(SM,S/M or S&M.) People involved in sadomasochism were described as bad, sick and pervert. Since some people did not want to be called or described that way, terms like Dominance and Submission (D&S, DS or D/S), Love Bondage and Bondage and Discipline (B&D) were invented to be different from sadomasochists. In the 90's during the Internet revolution all kinky people were establishing arguments to label their kinks. After months of arguments the term BDSM was born. Most of the kinky people were happy after the therm was issued. BDSM combines Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS) and Sadomasochism (SM.)

Bondage- When restraints are placed on the body in any practice to avoid any type of movement.

Bondage and Discipline- Also known as B&D, it involves several sexual practices like bondage, slave training, corporal punishment and dominant/submissive role play.

Caning- The use of a cane on a bottom.

Cat or cat o' nine tails- Originally it was a whip used by the British Navy. Actually it is referred to all whips which are multi-thonged.

Code word(s)- Word or words that are used in personal ads to unnotice sexual proclivities mostly unacceptable in society. Ex: French or Greek culture, clean, discipline, strict, leather, etc.

Consensual- An agreement made by parties for certain type of behavior or activities. When the consent is informed and there is a reasonable knowledge of possible risks is called true consent.

Discipline- The other part of Bondage (B&D) that could also mean punishment or a structured training of a submissive.

Dominance, dominance and submission, D/S, D&S- Used for erotic enhancement, one partner uses consensual empowerment for the other partner. In SM, dominance and submission are the psychological and emotional underpinnings.

Dominant, Dom, Domme, Domina, Dominatrix- The person that in a consensual exchange of power is in charge. If the person is a male is called Dominant or Dom; if is a female is called a Domme, Domina or Dominatrix.

Electro-torture- For a desired physical sensation it is used electrical simulation.

Enema- An instrument or injecting fluid into the anus to flush the lower intestines. In SM scenes enemas are used for humiliation, for preparation for other activities(fisting or anal sex) and/or for pleasure.

Erotic restraint- When movement is restricted for erotic play. It is also referred to the devices used.

Fetish- Sexual Fixation On An Activity, object or Part Of The Body!!!

Foot fetish, foot worship- sexual obsession toward feet or shoes.

Gear- Any equipment used for scene purposes.

Golden shower- Urinating on or in another person.

Humiliation- Part of the erotic control to embarrass or to humble someone by teasing them about their sexual desires. In SM humiliation, ironically, can build a person's self-esteem by reinforcing their sexuality.

Infantilism- Infant-like behavior in role play by wearing diapers, nursing, etc.

Latex- Material used to make fetish items like clothing.

Leather, Leather sex, Leather lifestyle- A synonym for SM used in fetish fashion and gear.

Limit- In SM are the boundaries set by the dominant and the submissive for what to will or to unwill within a scene. Limits must be respected and applied to roles, levels of dominance and submission, time and also activities like whipping and paddling.

Masochism, masochist- The enjoyment of pain, humiliation or being dominated.

Master- When the man takes control in the SM role play.

Mistress- When the woman takes control in the SM role play.

Novice- A person with lack of experience in SM, but willing to learn.

"O" fantasy- Code word for SM or a fictional piece by Pauline Reage.

Over the knee, OTK- Code word or classic spanking position.

Pervert- A person that deviates from the sexual norm.

Play- Taking part of a SM scene or scene activity.

Pony training- Transformation of a boy or girl into a pony to be ridden, to pull a carriage or a well-trained horse in obedience.

PVC-Poly-vinyl-chloride- Plastic used for fetish clothing or pipes used for bondage devices.

Sadism, sadist- Sexual pleasure that results from pain, humiliation and/or domination. The sadist delivers pain or humiliation to the people desiring it by respecting their limits and by being caring and careful.

Sadomasochism, SM- Sexual practices in an advanced level where pain , humiliation and power exchange are being used. SM has also dominance and submission, bondage and discipline, love bondage and erotic spanking.

Safe, sane and consensual- In the SM community are characteristics of acceptable play. During activities, players take safety precautions or they do not participate in practice that could injure mentally or physically their partners. Before the activities they consent by negotiating.

Scene- The SM or fetish community or a SM session or occurrence during play.

Slave- A submissive that is involved in a slave/master fantasy.

Slave training-The instruction of a submissive in a dominant's preference . The submissive's behavior is conditioned.

Spanking- Striking or paddling a submissive in their butts.

Switch- When a person trades places in a SM role or physical play. Ex: top or bottom, dom or sub. It is also a tree or bush branch used for corporal punishment.

Torture- Painful actions used to enhance sexual pleasure.

Training- Discipline used by the dom to control the sub's behavior, condition and/or attitude. Pony training, anal training, position training, voice command response, etc. can be used for training.

TS,Transsexual- A person that mismatches his/her personal psychology. They go for counseling, hormone treatments and surgery. Before surgery a transsexual is referred as a "pre-op" TS and after surgery is a "post-op" TS.

Vinyl- Material used for fetish fashions.

Water sports- Sexual play using urine or enemas.

Whip- Object that can be also a cane, crop, paddle or slapper, or a single or multiple-lash whips to beat a submissive.

Worship- To lavish attention to a body part(Ex: feet.) Also, a role playing attitude toward a dominant.

X-frame- A bondage frame in the shape of an "X" in a horizontal position.

Gay Terms

Androgyny: From the combined Greek words for man and woman, it was once used to denote the state of having both male and female attributes. Its current usage is to denote a form of self- presentation somewhere between butch and femme.

Bisexual/Bi: A person who has sexual and emotional relationships with both women and men, though not necessarily at the same time.

Black Triangle: A symbol in the shape of an inverted triangle adopted by lesbian culture in remembrance of the lesbians who were forced to wear a black triangle and were killed by the Nazis in Europe.

Boston Marriage: Used primarily in nineteenth century New England to refer to two women who set up a household together for an extended period of time. Some Boston marriages were undoubtedly lesbian in nature, but others were probably platonic.

Butch: A lesbian who prefers traditionally masculine dress, style, expression, or identity.

Closet: The confining state of being secretive about one's homosexuality.

Colors Historically Associated With Homosexuality:

Green: United States, 1930's to 1950's.
Red: United States, late nineteenth and early twentieth century.
Pink: Nazi Germany.
Scarlet: Imperial Rome.
Violet: Imperial Rome.
Blue: present-day Russia.
Lavender: throughout history and in present-day United States.
Rainbow: present-day United States.

Come out: To acknowledge one's homosexuality, either to oneself or to others; most often a public declaration of being lesbian or gay.

Commitment Ceremony: Any ritual, religious or secular, for honoring the union of lesbian or gay male couples.

Cross-dressing: The practice of dressing in clothes traditionally assigned to the opposite gender; also called transvestitism or drag.

Drag: Cross-dressing, assuming both the dress and mannerisms of the opposite gender.

Dyke: Once known as a derogatory term for lesbian, the word dyke was reclaimed by lesbians in the 1970's as slang, and many lesbians now refer to themselves as dykes.

Femme: A lesbian who prefers traditionally feminine dress, style, expression, or identity.

Gay: Homosexual. The term refers to both men and women, though many gay women now prefer to call themselves lesbians.

Gaydar: The uncanny and seemingly innate ability lesbians and gay men tend to have to recognize and detect one another; from gay and radar.

Heterosexism: A bias toward heterosexuality, to the exclusion of homosexuality.

Homophobia: Literally, the fear of homosexuals and homosexuality, sometimes merely implied, but often taken to the point where biased statements are made or biased actions are taken against lesbians and gay men. Homophobia can be societal, external, or internalized.

Lesbian: A female homosexual. The term literally means a resident of the Isle of Lesbos, a Greek island where the ancient lyric poet Sappho, whose versed celebrated love between women, lived.

Pink Triangle: A symbol of the shape of an inverted triangle adopted by lesbian and gay culture in remembrance of the homosexuals who were forced to wear pink triangles and were killed by the Nazis in Europe.

Pride March: A public procession or parade of lesbians and gay men to proclaim the pride, solidarity, and unity of gay people.

Queer: Once known as a derogatory term for homosexual, Queer was reclaimed by lesbian, gay, and bisexual activist in the 1980's as a proud name for themselves. Queer blurs both gender and sexual orientation and is regarded as more inclusive of difference than lesbian or gay.

Rainbow Flag: Designed in 1978 in San Francisco by artist Glibert Baker as a symbol of lesbian and gay pride. Originally, there were eight colors in the flag; pink for sexuality, red for light, orange for healing, yellow for the sun, green for natural serenity, turquoise for art, indigo for harmony, and violet for spirit. In 1979, the flag was modified to its current six-stripe format (pink was omitted, blue was substituted for turquoise and indigo, and violet became a rich purple). Signifying the diversity and unity of the lesbian and gay movement.

Ring On Pinky: Wearing a ring on the little finger of the left hand has for much of the twentieth century been a code for homosexuality.

Sexual Orientation: Sexual identification, depending on a person's sexual relationships or affinity.

Significant Other: One's chosen romantic partner.

Smash: A young woman's crush on another woman. The term was used in late nineteenth century and early twentieth century women's colleges.

Transgender: An umbrella term for those who blur the lines of traditional gender expression.

Transsexual: A person who has undergone or is preparing to undergo sex reassignment surgery.

Transvestite: A person who dresses in the clothes and assumes the gender expression of the opposite sex.

COMMON MODERN SEXUAL TERMS

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AC/DC......................................BISEXUAL
ACTIVE...................................THE AGGRESSIVE SEXUAL PARTNER
AGATE....................................A SMALL PENIS
ANALINGUS..........................KISSING AND PENETRATION OF THE ANUS BY TONGUE
ANGEL....................................MALE WHO PAYS FOR SEXUAL ACTS
ANUS.......................................THE OPENING OF THE RECTUM
AROUND THE WORLD.......KISSING THE ENTIRE BODY BEFORE SEX
ASEXUAL...............................ABSENCE OF SEXUAL FEELING
ASS..........................................THE BUTTOCKS
ASSHOLE...............................THE ANUS
AUNTIE...................................AN AGING MALE HOMOSEXUAL
AUTO-EROTICISM...............MASTURBATION
AUTO-FELLATIO..................PERFORMING FELLATION ON ONES OWN PENIS
AUTO-SADISM......................AN ACT WHEREBY ONE INFLICTS PAIN ON ONESELF


B
BACK SCUTTLE.....................PERFORM ANAL INTERCOURSE
BAG..........................................THE SCROTUM
BACK YARD...........................THE BUTTOCKS
BALL........................................A WILD SEX ACTIVITY
BALLS......................................THE TESTICLES
BANANA..................................THE PENIS
BARE-ASSED..........................NUDE
BASKET...................................THE BULGE OF MALE SEX ORGAN IN CLOTHING
BASKET SHOPPING..............OBSERVING THE MALE ORGAN THROUGH CLOTHING
BEAT OFF.................................MASTURBATION
BEEFCAKE...............................MALE POSSESSING SEX APPEAL
BENT STICK............................AN UNERECTABLE PENIS
BI-SEXUAL...............................ONE WHO ENJOYS BOTH SEXES
BITCH.......................................A LOOSE WOMAN OR FEMININE MALE
BLIND.......................................AN UNCIRCUMCISED PENIS
BLOW........................................TO PERFORM ORAL INTERCOURSE
BLOW JOB................................THE ACT OF ORAL INTERCOURSE
BLUE BALLS............................SEVERE NEED TO EXPERIENCE SEXUAL ORGASM
BLUE MOVIES.........................PORNO MOVIES
BOOBS.......................................FEMALE BREAST
BONKERS.................................FEMALE BREAST
BRING OFF..............................EJACULATION IN THE MALE
BRONCO..................................YOUNG BOY WHO IS DIFFICULT TO RESTRAIN DURING SEX
BROWN.....................................TO PERFORM ANAL INTERCOURSE
BROWNIE QUEEN...................PASSIVE PARTNER IN ANAL INTERCOURSE
BUGGER....................................TO PERFORM ANAL INTERCOURSE
BULL-DYKE..............................A MASCULINE FEMALE HOMOSEXUAL
BUMMER..................................ACTIVE PARTNER IN ANAL SEX
BUNS...........................................THE BUTTOCKS

C

CAMP..........................................BEHAVE IN AN EFFEMINATE MANNER
CAN..............................................THE BUTTOCKS
CASTRATION.............................RENDER THE TESTICLES INOPERABLE BY SURGERY
CHANGE YOUR LUCK.............TO ENGAGE IN A GAY SEX FOR THE FIRST TIME
CHASTE.......................................TO ENGAGE IN ORDINARY SEXUAL ACTIVITIES
CHEAT.........................................TO BE UNFAITHBUL TO ONE'S SEX PARTNER
CHEEKS.......................................FLESHY PORTIONS OF BUTTOCKS
CHERRY......................................ONE WHO IS STILL A VIRGIN
CHICKEN.....................................A YOUNG, ATTRACTIVE MALE
CIRCUMCISION........................SURGICAL REMOVAL OF THE FORESKIN
CLAP............................................GONORRHEA OR OTHER VENERAL DESEASE
CLIMAX.......................................TO ACHIEVE THE HIGH POINT OF SEX ACTIVITY.
CLIT.............................................THE CLITORIS
CLITORIS...................................STRUCTURE OF THE FEMALE GENITALIA
CLOSET QUEEN........................A MALE HOMOSEXUAL WHO HIDES HIS DESIRES FOR MEN
COCK............................................THE PENIS (IN SOUTHERN SECTION OF USA REFERS TO FEMALE VIGINA)
COCKSUCKER............................ONE WHO PERFORMS ORAL INTERCOURSE ON THE PENIS
COITUS.........................................SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
COITUS IN ANO..........................ANAL INTERCOURSE
COITUS INTERRUPTUS............WITHDRAWL OF THE PENIS PRIOR TO EJACULATION
COLD............................................UNRESPONSIVE TO SEXUAL RELATIONS
COME...........................................TO ACHIEVE SEXUAL ORGASM
CONDOM.....................................RUBBER SHEATH WORN ON THE PENIS
CONTINENCE.............................TO REFRAIN FROM SEXUAL ACTIVITY
CORNHOLE.................................ANAL INTERCOURSE
CORONA......................................RIM OF FLESH WHICH FORMS THE BASE OF THE HEAD OF PENIS
CRABS..........................................LICE WHICH INFECT THE PUBIC AREA OF THE BODY
CROTCH......................................JUNCTURE OF THE THIGHS WITH THE BODY; THE GENITALS AREA
CRUISE.........................................THE HUNT FOR A SEX PARTNER
CUNDRUM...................................A RUBBER SHEATH WORN ON THE PENIS
CUM...............................................SEMEN
CUNT.............................................THE VAGINA

D

DAISY CHAIN.............................A GROUP SEX ACTIVITY IN WHICH THERE IS A LINKING OF SEVERAL PEOPLE BY ORAL CONNECTIONS
DARK MEAT...............................A NEGRO AS A SEX OBJECT
DERRIERE..................................THE BUTTOCKS
DICK..............................................THE PENIS
DIDDLE.........................................TO PERFORM MASTURBATION
DINGE QUEEN............................MALE HOMOSEXUAL WHO PERFERS NEGRO SEX PARTNERS
DIRT...............................................SYSLAVE MEMBERS WHO'S CHECKS BOUNCE
DOG................................................AN UNATTRACTIVE PERSON
DOG FASHION.............................SEXUAL POSITION USED BY CANINES
DONG.............................................THE PENIS
DOSE..............................................GONORRHEA OR OTHER VENEREAL DISEASE
DRAG QUEEN...............................MALE WHO DRESSES IN FEMALE CLOTHING
DRIVE IT HOME..........................FORCEFUL INTERCOURSE
DRY FUCK.....................................MOVING AGAINST ONE ANOTHER, CLOTHED TO SIMULATE INTERCOURSE
DYKE.............................................A LESBIAN

E

EASY...............................................A PERSON WHO NEEDS LITTLE PERSUASION TO PERFORM SEX ACTS
EAT.................................................TO PERFORM ORAL INTERCOURSE
EFFEMINATE...............................DESCRIPTIVE OF A MALE WHO ACTS IN A FEMININE MANNER
EJACULATION.............................DISCHARGE FROM THE PENIS DURING SEXUAL CLIMAX
ERECTION....................................THE SEXUAL AROUSED STATE CAUSE BY A RUSH OF BLOOD INTO THE VEINS AND CAPILLARIES OF THE PENIS, COUPLED WITH A VALVE ACTION WHICH PREVENTS ITS RELEASE, AND FURTHER AIDED BY THE CONTRACTION OF CERTAIN SURFACE MUSCLES ON THE PENIS, ALL OF WHICH COMBINE TO KEEP KEEP IT IN A HARD AND EXTENDED CONFIGURATION UNTIL THE STIMULI IS TAKEN AWAY OR EJACULATION OCCURS
EUNUCH........................................A MALE WHO HAS HAD HIS TESTICLES REMOVED
EXHIBITIONIST...........................A PERSON WHO DERIVES SEXUAL GRATIFICATION BY BY DISPLAYING HIS BODY TO OTHERS

F

FAGGOT.........................................A MALE HOMOSEXUAL
FAIRY.............................................A MALE HOMOSEXUAL
FAMILY JEWELS.........................THE TESTICLES
FANNY............................................THE BUTTOCKS
FELLATIO......................................TO KISS, NIBBLE, LICK OR SUCK THE PENIS
FETISH...........................................ANY OBJECT OR PART OF THE BODY WHICH IS NORMALLY CONSIDERED NON-SEXUAL BUT WHICH AROUSES EROTIC FEELINGS SUCH AS LEATHER, RUBBER, FAIR, FEET, PANTIES, AND ETC
FIFTH WHEEL...............................A HETROSEXUAL IN A HOMOSEXUAL GROUP
FISH.................................................A FEMALE
FLAGELLATION...........................WHIPPING OR BEATING TO SEXUAL ORGASM
FRENCH..........................................TO PERFORM ORAL INTERCOURSE
FRUIT...............................................A MALE HOMOSEXUAL
FULL HOUSE..................................HAVING MORE THAN ONE VENEREAL DISEASE AT THE SAME TIME

G

GANG BANG...................................GROUP SEX WHERE ONE IS FUCKED CONSECUTIVELY BY MANY
GAY...................................................HOMOSEXUAL
GENITALS........................................THE HUMAN REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS
GET IT UP.........................................TO ACHIEVE AN ERECT PENIS
GET SOME........................................TO ATTAIN SEXUAL INTERCOURSE WITH SOMEONE
GET YOUR ROCKS OFF.................TO EJACUATE
GIVE HEAD......................................TO PERFORM ORAL INTERCOURSE
GLORY HOLE..................................AN OPENING CUT INTO THE PARTITION BETWEEN TWO COMMODE STALS IN A MEN'S RESTROOM THROUGH WHICH ORAL INTERCOURSE CAN BE PERFORMED
GO DOWN ON.................................TO PERFORM ORAL INTERCOURSE
GOLDEN SHOWER........................ONE PERSON URINATES ON ANOTHER FOR SEXUAL PLEASURE
GOOSE..............................................PRESS A FINGER INTO THE CLEAVAGE OF THE BUTTOCKS
GREEK..............................................TO PERFORM ANAL INTERCOURSE
GROPE..............................................TO HANDLE ANOTHER'S GENITALS
G-STRING........................................A SMALL BRIEF WORN OVER THE GENITALS

H

HAND JOB.........................................MASTURBATION,PARTICULARLY AT THE HANDS OF ANOTHER
HAND MADE....................................A LARGE PENIS ALLEGEDLY DEVELOPED THROUGH MASTURBATION
HARD ON..........................................AN ERECT PENIS
HARD UP...........................................LACK OF SEXUAL ACTIVITY AND NEED FOR A SEX PARTNER
HETROSEXUAL................................ONE WHO DESIRES SEX ONLY WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX
HOMOSEXUAL................................ONE WHO DESIRES SEX ONLY WITH THE SAME SEX
HORNY..............................................SEXUALLY AROUSED; PASSIONATE
HORSE AROUND..............................TO EXPLORE SEXUALLY WITHOUT ENGAGING IN INTERCOURSE
HOT PANTS.......................................SEXUALLY AROUSED
HUNG.................................................TO DESCRIBE THE SIZE OF A LARGE PENIS
HUSTLER...........................................PROSTITUTE THAT SEARCHES FOR CUSTOMERS

I

IMPOTENT......................................UNABLE TO ENGAGE IN SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
INCEST.............................................SEXUAL RELATIONS BETWEEN FAMILY MEMBERS

J

JACK OFF........................................TO MASTURBATE
JAIL BAIT........................................ONE WHO IS UNDER 18 YEARS OF AGE
JERK OFF........................................TO MASTURBATE
JOHN. ..............................................ONE WHO FINANCIALLY SUPPORTS ANOTHER FOR SEX FAVORS
JOINT...............................................THE PENIS

K

KICKS................................................SEXUAL THRILLS
KNOCK OF A PIECE........................TO HAVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE

L
LACE CURTAINS...............................THE FORESKIN OF THE PENIS
LAVENDER.........................................PERTAINING TO THE HOMOSEXUAL LIFESTYLE
LAY.......................................................TO PERFORM SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
LESBIAN..............................................A FEMALE HOMOSEXUAL
LIBIDO.................................................SEXUAL APPETITE
LOAD....................................................THE FLUID FROM AN EJACULATION

M

MAKE OUT.........................................TO SUCCEED SEXUALLY
MARY..................................................AN EFFEMINATE-ACTING MALE
MASOCHISM....................................WHERE SEXUAL GRATIFICATION IS ACHIEVED BY PAIN
MASTURBATION..............................MANUAL MANIPULATION OF GENITALS
MATINEE............................................A SEX SESSION IN THE AFTERNOON
MEAT...................................................THE PENIS
MUTUAL MASTURBATION............WHERE PARTNERS MANIPULATE EACH OTHER'S GENITALS

N


NARCISSISM......................................ONE WHO IS STIMULATED BY ONE'S OWN BODY
NECK....................................................TO EMBRACE, KISS AND FONDLE
NUTS.....................................................THE TESTICLES

O

OLD DIRT ROAD...............................USING THE ANUS FOR INTERCOURSE
OLD MAN............................................ONE WHO SUPPORTS A YOUNGER SEX PARTNER
ONE NIGHT STAND..........................A SEXUAL AFFAIR BETWEEN TWO OR MORE PEOPLE WHO WILL PROBABLY NEVER SEE EACH OTHER AGAIN
ONE WAY.............................................WILL PERFORMNM ONLY ONE TYPE OF SEXUAL ACTIVITY
ORAL INTERCOURSE......................A SEXUAL ACTIVITY WHEREBY THE MOUTH OF ONE PER-IS USED IN CONNECTION WITH THE SEXUAL ORGANS OF OF ANOTHER PERSON TO PRODUCE SEX GRATIFICATION
ORGASM............................................THE PEAK OF SENSATION DURING SEXUAL ACTIVITY

P

PANSY..................................................A MALE HOMOSEXUAL
PASSIVE...............................................THE FUCKEE
PEARL DIVER....................................ONE WHO PERFORMS ORAL SEX ON THE PENIS
PECKER................................................THE PENIS
PEDERASTY.........................................INSERTION OF THE PENIS INTO THE ANUS
PEDOPHILIA........................................SEXUAL LOVE OF A CHILD BY AN ADULT
PEEPING TOM.....................................A VOYEUR
PENIS.....................................................THE MALE SEX ORGAN CONSISTING OF HEAD, SHAFT AND BASE....
PERINEUM............................................THE AREA BETWEEN THE ANUS AND TESTICLES, ANUS AND VAGINA
PERVERT...............................................ONE WHO RECEIVES SEXUAL GRATIFICATION FROM KINKY SEX ACTS
PETER......................................................THE PENIS
PHALLUS.................................................THE PENIS
PICKUP....................................................STRANGER WHO IS INDUCED TO GO ELSEWHERE FOR SEX
PISS HARD ON.......................................AN ERECT PENIS CAUSED BY THE NEED TO URINATE
POCKET POOL........................................MASTURBATING THROUGH PANTS POCKET
POKE.........................................................TO ENGAGE IN SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
PRE-CUM JUICE.....................................NATURAL LUBE WHICH OOZES FROM THE PENIS PISS-SLIT
PRICK.......................................................THE PENIS
PRO...........................................................A PROSTITUTE
PROSTATE..............................................GLANDS AT BASE OF URETHRA WHICH EJECTS SEMEN
PT..............................................................A PRICK TEASER
PUNK........................................................A MALE PROSTITUTE
PUSHOVER..............................................EASILY PERSUADED TO ENGAGE IN SEX
PUSSY........................................................VAGINA

Q

QUEEN.....................................................AN EFFEMINATE MALE HOMOSEXUAL
QUICKIE..................................................A VERY BRIEF SEX ACT

R


RAPE........................................................FORCIBLY PERFORM SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
RECTUM................................................THE TUBE BETWEEN THE COLOR AND THE ANUS
RIM..........................................................TO USE THE TONGUE ON THE ANUS
ROD..........................................................THE PENIS
RUBBER..................................................A CONDUM


S

SADISM..................................................SEXUAL STIMULATION ASSOCIATED WITH THE DESIRE TO INFLICT PAIN, PHYSICAL OR MENTAL, ON ANOTHER
SADOMASOCHISM...BOTH SADISM AND MASOCHISM EXISTING IN THE SAME PERSON
SCORE..................................................TO ACHIEVE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
SCREW.................................................THE ACT OF SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
SCROTUM...........................................THE POUCH OR SAC WHICH CONTAINS THE TESTICLES
SEA FOOD............................................A SAILOR AS A SEX OBJECT
SEMEN.................................................THE FLUID PRODUCED DURING EJACULATION OF THE MALE
SHOOT.................................................TO ACHIEVE ORGASM
SIXTY-NINE.........................................GENITAL ORAL INTERCOURSE PERFORMED ON EACH OTHER.SIMULTANEOUSLY BY TWO PARTNERS
SMEGMA.............................................WHITE MATTER WHICH COLLECTS UNDER THE FORESKIN OF PENIS
SODOMY..............................................THE INSERTION OF THE PENIS INTO THE ANUS
SPERM..................................................THE FLUID THAT ERUPTS FROM THE PENIS DURING EJACULATION
STALLION............................................A MALE WHO POSESSES A VERY LARGE PENIS
STRAIGHT............................................A HETROSEXUAL
STUD......................................................A MALE WHO IS IN GREAT DEMAND AS A SEX PARTNER
SUCK OFF.............................................TO PERFORM ORAL INTERCOURSE ON THE PENIS
SUGAR DADDY....................................A MAN WHO KEEPS A YOUNGER PERSON FOR SEXUAL FAVORS
SWINGER..............................................ONE WHO ACCEPTS FREE LOVE DOCTRINE
SWISH.....................................................A MALE WHO BEHAVES IN A FEMININE MANNER
SWITCH HITTER..................................A BI-SEXUAL

T


TEA ROOM...........................................A PUBLIC MEN'S REST ROOM
TESTICLES............................................THE MALE REPRODUCTIVE GLANDS
THIRD SEX............................................HOMOSEXUALS
TONGUE (VERB)..................................TO PERFORM ORAL INTERCOURSE
TOOLBOX..............................................THE MALE GENITALS
TRADE....................................................A PASSIVE MALE PROSTITUTE FOR HOMOSEXUALS
TRICK.....................................................A SEX PARTNER
TURN A TRICK.....................................TO TAKE ON A SEX PARTNER FOR MONEY

U

URETHA...................................................DUCT WHICH CARRIES URINE AND SEMEN
UROLAGNIA...........................................SEXUAL PLEASURE FROM WATCHING ANOTHER DRINK URINE

V

VACUUM CLEANER..............................ONE WHO APPLIES GREAT SUCTION DURING ORAL SEX
VAGINA....................................................ORIFACE OF FEMALE SEX ORGANS
VANILLA SEX..........................................ANY NON KINKY SEX ACTS
VERSATILE..............................................BI-SEXUAL
VIRILTY....................................................THE SEXUAL POWER AND CAPACITY OF A MALE
VOYEUR....................................................ONE WHO GAINS SEXUAL SATISFACTION FROM WATCHING OTHERS UNDRESSING OR ENGAGE IN SEXUAL ACTS

W

WHAM BAM.............................................RAPID AND HURRIED SEXUAL ACTIVITY
WIENER.....................................................THE PENIS
WORK OFF................................................TO MASTURBATE
WORK UP...................................................TO CREATE PASSION OR TO BE PASSIONATE

Penis Terms

corona: The 'crown,' a ridge of flesh demarcating where the head of the penis and the shaft join.

corpa cavernosa: The corpora cavernosa are the two spongy bodies of erectile tissue on either side of the penis which become engorged with blood from arteries in the penis, thus causing erection.

cowper's glands: The Cowper's glands secrete a small amount of pre-ejaculate fluid prior to orgasm. This fluid neutralizes the acidity within the urethra itself.

ejaculatory ducts: The path through the seminal glands which semen travels
during ejaculation.

epididymis: The epididymis is a 'holding pen' where sperm produced by
the seminiferous tubules mature. The sperm wait here until ejaculation or nocturnal emission.

foreskin, prepuce: A roll of skin which covers the head of the penis in uncircumsized men.

frenulum, frenum: A thin strip of flesh on the underside of the penis that connects the shaft to the head.

glans: The glans is clearly visible in illustration (A) as the head of the penis. The glans in uncircumcised men is usually covered by the prepuce. The glans is highly sensitive, as is the corona, the ridge of flesh that connects the glans to the shaft of the penis.

prostate gland: Also produces a fluid that makes up the semen. The prostate gland also squeezes shut the urethral duct to the bladder, thus preventing urine from mixing with the semen and disturbing the pH balance required by sperm.

scrotum: The scrotum is a sac that hangs behind and below the penis, and containts the testes, the male sexual glands. The scrotum's primary function is to maintain the testes at approximately 34 C, the temperature at which the testes most effectively produce sperm.

seminal vesicles: The seminal vesicles produce semen, a fluid that activates
and protects the sperm after it has left the penis during ejaculation

smemga: A substance with the texture of cheese secreted by glands on each side of the frenulum in uncircumsized men.

testes, testicles: The male sexual glands, the two testes within the scrotum
produce sperm and testosterone. Within each testis is a kilometre of ducts called the seminiferous tubules, the organs which generate sperm. Each testicle produces nearly 150 million sperm every 24 hours.

urethra, meatus: The opening at the tip of the penis to allow the passage of
both urine and semen.

vas deferens: The ducts leading from the epididymis to the seminal vesicles. These are the ducts that are cut during the procedure known as vasectomy.

LOVE- That condition wherein the other person's happiness is essential to your own.

SEXUALOVE- The synergic fusing of love and sexuality into a single erotic emotion in an intimate relationship.

COMPERSION- Warm happy feelings experienced when noticing ones loved ones enjoying loving relationships with others.The opposite of jealousy.

JEALOUSY- Neurotic anxiety based on fear of losing control over a partner one regards as a possession.

JEALOUS- Resentfully envious or suspicious of rival influences.

LOVESTYLE- Refers to the design of a sexualove relationship style. Like the term "lifestyle," it implies a conscious choice.

HETEROSEXUAL/STRAIGHT- (hetero=different) A lovestyle orientation in which sexualove is experienced only between members of opposite sexes.

HOMOSEXUAL/GAY- (homo=same) A lovestyle orientation in which sexualove is experienced only between members of the same sex.

BISEXUAL/BI- (bi=two) A lovestyle orientation in which sexualove is experienced both between members of the same and opposite sexes.

DYAD- A sexualove relationship consisting of two primary partners.

TRIAD- The most basic and common form of multipartner relationship, consisting of three adult primary partners, usually two of one sex and one of the other.

PRIMARY RELATIONSHIP- A committed, long term, live in sexualove relationship which may or may not include marriage and/or shared economy.

SECONDARY RELATIONSHIP- An ongoing sexualove relationship in which the partners usually do not live together, and do not consider their relationship a first priority.

TERTIARY RELATIONSHIP- A friendly but casual sexualove relationship of an occasional or temporary nature.

OPEN RELATIONSHIP- A sexualove relationship in which the partners have agreed that each may independently form outside sexualove relationships.

CLOSED/EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP- A sexualove relationship in which the partners have agreed to have no other lovers outside of the relationship.

INCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP- An intimate sexualove relationship in which all partners have agreed to form a synergistic group and in which each dyad is warm and trusting. The existing relationship may expand to include more people with mutual consent.

MULTIMATE RELATIONSHIP- Similar to an inclusive relationship or expanded family, but all partners are primary, whether or not they are married.

MULTIPARTNER RELATIONSHIP- Any non monogamous lovestyle.

CONDOM COMMITMENT- An agreement among all the members of any open sexualove relationship group that all partners be tested for sexually transmitted diseases, and that condoms be used with any lovers outside of the group.

MARRIAGE- A contractually committed partnership, including sexualove, cohabitation, shared economy/property and mutual childrearing.

OPEN MARRIAGE- A marriage of two partners that is not sexually exclusive, but permits either or both partners to have other lovers outside of the primary relationship within the marriage.

GROUP MARRIAGE- (see Polygamy) Marriage in which three or more adult partners are married to each other. A group marriage may be open, closed or inclusive.

PLURAL MARRIAGE- A term often applied to old-Mormon style polygyny (plural marriages are no longer accepted in the Mormon church). All wives may live together, or each may have her own home.

OPEN GROUP MARRIAGE- A marriage of three or more adult partners that is not sexually exclusive, but permits partners to have other outside lovers.

LINE MARRIAGE- An inclusive group marriage designed to continue in perpetuity as new members may be added by mutual consent of the existing partners, replacing any who leave or die.

CORPORATE MARRIAGE- A group marriage that is legally structured and registered as a corporate entity, whether a DBA, Partnership, Trust, Corporation or other legal form

MONOGAMY- (mono=one; gamy=marriage) The practice or state of being married to only one person at a time. Sexual exclusivity is implied.

MONOGAMOUS- Inclined, capable and desiring of sexual exclusivity in a marriage with a single partner.

SERIAL MONOGAMY- The most common lovestyle in the US today. Consists of being married to one partner at a time with frequent changes in partners.

NON MONOGAMY- (see Polyamory) Any lovestyle which allows more than one sexualoving relationship at the same time.

POLYAMORY- (poly=many; amor=love) The practice, state or ability of having multiple sexualove partners at the same time.

POLYAMOROUS- Inclined, capable and desiring of having multiple sexualove partners at the same time.

POLYGAMY- (poly=many; gamy=marriage) The practice or state of being married to two or more partners at the same time. No limitations are implied as to the sex or number of the partners. The generic term for group marriages.

POLYGAMOUS- Inclined, capable and desiring of marriage with several partners at the same time.

POLYGYNY- (poly=many; gyno=woman) Polygamy in which one man has two or more wives at the same time.

POLYANDRY- (poly=many; andro=man) Polygamy in which one woman has two or more husbands at the same time.

POLYFIDELITY- (poly=many; fidelis=faithful) The state or practice of sexual exclusivity among a group of three or more primary partners. A closed group marriage emphasizing equal primacy of all relationships.

POLYFIDELITOUS- Inclined, capable and desiring of sexual exclusivity among a group of three or more primary partners.

PROMISCUOUS- (pro=forth; miscere=to mix) Engaging in casual sexual relations with many persons indiscriminately.

SWINGING- Sport sex for couples. A form of non sexually exclusive monogamy in which two primary partners agree to have caual sex with other couples or singles as long as there is no emotional involvement.

SWAPPING- A form of swinging in which two or more primary partnered couples exchange partners for recreational sex.

FAMILY- A group of adults and/or children bound together by ties of mutual commitment, primary relationships, intimacy and shared lives, and regarding themselves as a family.

CELLULAR FAMILY- A multi adult family whose structure allows new partners to be added to the family with mutual consent.

EXPANDED FAMILY- A lovestyle in which three or more partners consciously choose a committed, multiple, primary, sexualoving relationship. Rules about outside partners vary, as does sexual orientation.

CLAN- An extended family, including secondary and tertiary relationships, who regard themselves as a clan.

TRIBE- An affiliation of families and clans sharing common values, customs and traditions, and regarding themselves as a tribe.

INTIMATE NETWORK (INTINET)- A web of lovers in varying degrees of intimate relationships within a social circle.

FREEMATE, PARAMOUR, CONSORT- Terms used to describe nonmarried members of a multimate relationship.

CO WIFE, CO HUSBAND- Terms used to descibe one's other partners in a group marriage.

anal intercourse: mudslide, back door, Greek way (coitus in ano)
monkey-finger = vaginal or anal digital penetration
ream = (1)forceful intercourse or rape, usually referencing anal rather than vaginal or oral, (2)to take strong advantage of or to hurt someone
take it in the ass = (1)receive anal intercourse, (2)to be taken advantage of
dogging = engaging in sex in a car or other observable location while others watch doggystyle = copulation position with male entering from behind, with female (coitus a tergo or coitus posteriori) or receiving male (coitus in ano) on hands and knees rimming = oral-anal interaction (analingus)

anus: ass/asshole, jaxy, poopchute, pooper, popo, hershey highway, bunghole, bumhole, butthole, garbage dump, dumper, dump truck, male cunt, puckered hole


bisexuality: AC-DC, switch-hit, two-way, both ways or both kinds, swing, either way group sex: orgy, daisy chain, circle jerk, gang bang, group swinging, group grope, rampant party, panties-party (lesbian group), Willie-wacking party (male group)

breasts: bosom, boobs/boobie, bust, bud, ‘cones/silicones or bolt-ons or built-ons (i.e., in reference to surgically augmented breasts), duke or dukes, headlights, hooters, chest, jugs, knobs, knockers, melons, tatas, tit or tittie (particularly referring to the nipple & areola), udders, yabos, nips, pointers or points, wonders (in reference to using a padded/pushup bra — from brandname Wonder Bra), mams Rawhide bra = any push-up bra (from Rawhide television theme: "head ‘em up, move ‘em out")

condom: jocky johnnie, glove, protection, rubber, safety, sheik, trojan, raincoat, party hat, sleeve French letter or French safes

circumcised penis: bald or baldie (because the glans is exposed when an uncircumcised penis becomes erect, thus "bald" can refer to an erection as well)


clitoris: clit, button or love button, chovis, dealybob, man in the boat, tongue candy (as object of cunnilingus), where the action is, female dick or little dick
lallies = legs, particularly attractive legs labia: lips, pussy lips, lady lips, pantie-lips, cunt-lips, honey lips vaginal secretions: quim, lubri-cunt, honey, hot honey or golden honey, pussy dew or cunt dew, wet, being wet, wet & wild, lovin’-juice, cunt juice, sluice labia minora and vestibule/vagina: clam, shell, gash, slit, slot or love-slot, the pink, crack, cleft, pussy, hole, chovis

copulation: shag, fuck, drill, screw, bang, bonk, ball, servicing, lovin’, humping, pumping, diddling, spooning, tupping, sleep with, make whoopie, make love, make it, do it, go at it, get it on, get laid, get some, get the little man wet, get the dick wet, wet the Willie, put the weiner in the bun, make a meat sandwich, dip the stick, party or party-on-down, makin’ bacon (implies overweight status of one or both partners), to dick-dip or dick diving, boffing, roll in the hay, mattress polo, coffee table or pool table lumbago, fusion & fission, slamming (refers primarily to an act of physical performance without love/heart involvment), getting in/into the pink or getting the pink, performing the wifely duty, poking or pickle-poking, get oil changed
score = to obtain sexual favors or intercourse
frig = to obtain orgasm or engage in copulation
twang plums = to arouse or stimulate a male, usually including ejaculation
cranking = (1)copulating or (2)using amphetamines
put out = providing obligatory sexual activity
ex-sex or a rerun roll = copulation with an ex-spouse; there are three basic types:
(1) last-hurrah, which is ending with a bang so to speak;
(2) bad-idea, which proves most unpleasant, and demonstrates once and for all the marriage is over;
(3) out-of-loneliness-and-weakness sex, which is usually motivated by desperation and usually has the effect of reinforcing the depression
sympathy-fuck aka mercy-fuck = sexual activity initiated or motivated by pity rather than by arousal, love, or financial gain (e.g., a wife gives sex only because husband looks sad, or a prostitute doesn’t charge for sex due to feeling sorry for client) to be had = (1)to be taken advantage of, or (2)to be the recipient of copulation, usually the unwilling recipient piece or piece of ass = (1)an event of copulation or (2)a sexually desirable person
boob-fucking = stimulation of penis between pressed-together breasts (coitus inter mammae)

Dominant: the person who directs the scene and issues the commands
Dungeon = a room designed and decorated specifically for SM play. Also known as "play room" (Henkin & Holiday)
Endorphins = A group of endogenous, morphine-like hormones secreted by the brain when the body is under unusual stress, which fit into the brain's optiod receptorsand stimulate them to fire, producing tranquilizing and pain-killing properties thatappear to help induce a sort of euphoria; some people report feeling a state of well-being similar to endorphin euphoria after experiencing intense sensations such as those associated with prolonged flogging. (Henkin & Holiday)
Fetishism = eroticization of objects, behaviors, and/or body parts
Fisting = insertion of hand or large part of hand into rectal, vaginal or oral cavity.
Golden Showers (GS) = playing with urine for erotic purposes
Heavy Play = sophisticated or advanced activities or techniques used for psychological or physical stimulation that require special training for safety reasons, e.g. breath control, cutting, temporary and/or permanent piercing, branding, burning, electroplay: also play that is very intense physically and / or psychologically, as very intense pain, or very intense surrender. (Henkin & Holiday) Humiliation = deliberate ego reduction for consensual erotic purposes, ranging from mild embarrassment to degradation; may be physical and /or psychological. (Henkin & Holiday)
Immobilization = rendering a bottom helpless by completely restricting movement
Infantilism = eroticization of being treated (or treating someone else) as a baby or toddler.
Limits = boundaries of consent as negotiated between partners, including activities in which one person does not wish to participate. (Henkin & Holiday)
Medical = scenes, examinations, procedures, and/or equipment, such as uniforms, enemas, rectal thermometer, catheters, sounds. (Henkin & Holiday)
Mistress= feminine title of respect accorded one who dominates a consenting partner
Mummification = bondage effected by encasing a person in material, so that he is tightly restrained and looks like a mummy.
NT = nipple torture, or intense stimulation of the nipples
Negotiation = conferring and discussing to reach an agreement about what will happen in an SM scene regarding likes, dislikes, limits, health issues, roles, etc.
Restraints = cuffs, usually made of leather, that close around wrists and ankles and also, sometimes, around thighs, waist, etc.
Safe Word = word or gesture previously agreed upon for use by both Tops and bottoms to halt the action in a scene or a relationship.
Sensory Depravation = using blindfolds, gags, ear plugs, hoods, bondage, etc. to reduce information available to one or more senses. (Henkin & Holiday)
Service = doing for another; the bottom for the Top, as an expression of
obedience, respect, submission, devotion, love, etc.
Slave = person who is consensually owned as property of another.
Submission = volitional giving up of control and power: decision that one is not in charge. (Henkin & Holiday)
Submissive = person who gives up power and control in a scene.
Suspension = a form of bondage in which a person is partly or fully raised off the ground.
Toy = equipment used in a SM scene. aka, tool, gear, equipment
Worship = adoring and / or loving a person, a person's body or body part, or a thing in a reverential manner - such as boots. (Henkin & Holiday)
leathers = peek-a-boo leather clothing often worn during B & D activities
handkerchief codes = color codes use to identify sexual play preferences
Bottom = term references (1)female or homosexual male who most prefers to receive sexual intercourse (usually in a submissive and passive way), and/or (2)the passive participant who experiences stimuli during sadomasochistic sex games (also termed the submissive or the masochist). Henkin & Holiday definition is: "umbrella term for the person in the scene who takes the submissive, receptive or masochistic role"
Top = term references (1)female or male who prefers to dominate or control the act of copulation (usually in the thrusting role), and/or (2)the participant who controls stimuli during sadomasochistic sex games (also termed sadist or dominatrix [females only, and usually for hire]).
switch = (1)person who enjoys playing either/both the bottom-masochist role or the top-sadist role, (2)a bisexual person, (3)a small whip used in B&D activities
scat or shit = feces


erect penis: ICBM or missile, stiffie or stiff, bone/boner, horn, shaft, knob, having "hot rocks," hard on, hot and bothered, pole, baldie or bald dick (uncircumcized)

ejaculated semen: spunk, cum/come, cream, pudding, juice, dingleberry juice, love juice, load, jism, jis/jazz, sauce, cum-snot, oyster , slime, man milk, squirt

female homosexual: nellie, pervert, fruit, auntie, sister, lesbian, lezzie or lez, jockey, butch, dyke -

Lipstick lesbians = lesbians who usually wear fashionable clothes and make-up; often considered "ultra-feminine," often referred to as "femmes" - LUG / Lesbian Until Graduation = adolescent lesbianism, usually nonpolitical, motivated most often by either:
• testing/rebellion/experimentation (adolescent differentiation process); or
• seeking a safe way of investigating sexuality ("trying out her carnal wings in a
familiar nest"); i.e., a reaction of avoiding the typically demanding male sexuality
(i.e., until male peers mature into a more co-equal sexuality -- described by GQ as "the time when boys finally learn not to ram their tongues into tomorrow").
Lumberjack lesbians = stereotypical strong/sturdy/buff, preferring to wear
traditionally male clothing (flannel/wool shirts, hiking boots, etc.), short cropped
hair and no make-up. Often quite politically active.
Lesbian Separatists = lesbians who actively campaign against men, feeling they
are warriors in a "battle of the sexes." Reacting to male domination and
oppression, they seek an all-female society which avoids and ignores
men altogether; indeed, some live in female Separatist communes. And some prefer to not be involved in interactive sexual activity at all.
Lavender lesbians = Earth-mothers or hippies; often artists; usually espousing holistic medicine, herbal cures, health foods and/or witchcraft; often refer to deity as goddess and participate in paganistic rituals. Preferring the natural state, they
object to such practices as shaving armpits or legs. (Georgia O’Keefe is
considered to be a favorite artist.)
Hollywood lesbians = originally just Lily Tomlin, but led by the boisterous
spokeswoman Sandra Bernhardt and the ‘70s film Personal Best, lesbianism
become quite romanticized in Hollywood. It was no coincidence that Personal Best star Mariel Hemingway, though not a lesbian, was the same actress who gave the first prime-time television kiss (on an episode of Roseanne, where else).
Music lesbians = The organization Strong Women in Music (SWIM) is not just big stars but includes non-famous members as well. When prominent Music lesbian Melissa Etheridge announced her girlfriend was pregnant, Entertainment Weekly(6 September 1996, p. 8) quipped "that will put an end to the rumor that she’s impotent"
Gertrude Stein lesbians = intellectual lesbians (usually middle-aged or older) whotend to gravitate toward the Arts, serving on civic and university Performing Artscommittees, etc. They usually have a perfect blend of ready wit, political outrage and excellent schooling. "They tend to rule in whatever field they enter."
Jock lesbians = (aka "Jockettes," a derisive term) are women who win at sports,
whether lesbian or not. Favorites include Billy Jean King and Martina Navratilova;
other female-sports sex symbols (circa 1999): Ila Borders, baseball; Mia Hamm, soccer; Martina Hingis, tennis; Marion Jones, track; Nikki McCray, basketball; Anna Kournikova, tennis.
Leather lesbians = lesbians who are into D&S and fetishes; many are dominatrixes.
Boston marriage = (1)a term formerly describing single women living together; nowadays more often refers to (2)a romantic yet asexual long-term lesbian relationship.

heterosexual: straight, conventional, square, vanilla

hymen: cherry, maidenhead, virginity, the proof, the test


male homosexual: fairy, faggot or fag, gay, queer, nellie, swish, homo, pervert, fruit, invert, pansy, princess, queen, sister, flit, nance, auntie, sodomist, granny, disco- dancer, limpwrist, Oscar Wilde reader, Streisand-ticket-holder, Buftie

male receiving (fellacio): hummer, blow job, suck cock, eat a sausage or a hot dog, take to lunch, a hot dog lunch or a sausage lunch, a sticky sweet facial (references ejaculate on face), a swallow sandwich, lipstick on the dipstick
Faggot Fair = (pejorative) gay pride parade/celebration/demonstration/gathering

menstruation: Aunt Sally or Aunt Martha, visit Aunt Sally/Martha, the bleed or the blood, coming around again, cramps, curse, period, monkey-on-my-back, rag or on the rag, that time, time of the month, sickness, not well, the way of women, birthday party, grandma is visiting or visiting grandma, on the pad wagon, tampax-

oral-genital interaction: mouth or mouth job, head or give head, suck, go down, blow, take to lunch, recreational eating, lappin’ & lickin’

oral-genital interaction, female receiving (cunnilingus): muff diving, cunt-lapping or cunt-licking, facing pink, eating pink, pink lunch,in the pink, flying a twat, eat out, eat/dine/dinner at the Y or the Y diner or the cafeteria, licking her lips, munch my carpet, magic carpet ride, frenching, gammahoucher (outdated term) Sixty-Nine (Soixante-Neuf) "69" or the numbers game = simultaneous oral-genital interaction between two people oral-genital interaction,

orgasm (either gender): come, get there, get off, fire off, copping off, score, reach it, make it, finish, climax, peak, large it, peak ejaculation/emission: shoot or shoot his wad, squirt, cream or whipped cream, blastoff, explode, make pudding

particularly large penis: whopper, long-dong, Moby Dick, jumbo elephant, size XXL

penis: Willie, Jimmy, Dick, Peter, John or john-john, banana, cock, dong/schlong, ding-dong, ding-a-ling, drill, dip stick, hose, joy stick, gun, hose, meat, pecker, prick, pud, rod, snorkel, stonker, todger/dodger, tool, unit, wang, wong, weiner, wee wee, Mr. Happy, wanker, Little Louie, Louie-Louie, spout, outdoor plumbing, pony, lumberjack, pickle, cyclops

scrotum: sack, bag (note however that "hose bag" refers to vagina), scrotes

sexually attractive man: babe, beefcake, bod, dude, gigolo, heartbreaker, honcho, honey, hunk, John-John, jumbo (from "Jumbo" the elephant; references large penis), lover, lunch, my guy or my man, rider, rump, roller, snatch, symbolic (from "sex symbol"), starter, stud or stud-muffin, sweetie, tush

sexually attractive woman: babe, baby, bird, bod, chick, date, fox, kitten, mama or big mama, nookie, nymph, panty or panties, piece, skirt, snatch, sweetie, heartbreaker,lover, tush, willie wacker, fly buster, Betty, Mantovani, bimbette, hole, lubrication,kickin’ or hotchin’

syphilis: bad blood, siph, pox, ‘lues (derived from pustules)
crabs = (1)pubic lice, or (2)VD/STD in general

testicles: plums, rocks, stones, dingleberries, balls, nuts, jewels or crown jewels or family jewels, potatoes (as in "meat and potatoes" referring to penis and testicles), cojones (Spanish), peaches, oysters

time menstrual discharge: siff, ziff, the bloody, kotex juice
peaches = (1)vulva, (2)breasts, or (3)testicles
cleft = (1)area between labia majora, (2)cleavage between breasts, (3)cleavage
between male or female buttocks
crack = [1] vagina or [2] buttock cleavage (or, of course, [3] rock cocaine)
snatch = (1)vulva/vagina, (2)copulation or sexual interaction in general, (3)a
sexually attractive man or woman
curvies = female secondary sex characteristics, particularly referencing the rounded outlines of waist, breasts, and buttocks
fanny = female anus and/or buttocks
knickers or knicks = panties (British)
crotchless knicks crotchless panties = underwear with cutouts exposing the genitalia
peek-a-boo bra = bra with cutouts exposing the nipples and areola
playing slits & clits or licks & slits = lesbian or multiple female sexual interaction
lickety-split = (1)quick sexual episode culminating in orgasm, (2)cunnilingus,
(3)lesbian sexual interaction
peach fuzz = pubic hair buttocks and/or including anus: ass, behind, hind end, hinder or hiney, bottom, bum, buns, butt, can bippies, cheeks, fanny (female), keister, popo, rear or rear end, rump, seat or seater or sitters, tush or tushie, mooner, booty, back door

uncircumcised penis: shrouded, capped dick, sheathed, cloaked or using a cloaking device, heathen dick or gentile dick

VD/STDs in general: clasp, dose, old Joe, whites, morning dew, a strain, wages (from "wages of sin") gonorrhea: clap, dose, drip

vulva: down there, beaver, crotch, Y-view, the Y, YMCA, lady-lips, money-maker, yoni, pussy, bush or bushland, tush, concha
pussy = collective name for all female genitalia, more especially vagina
concha (Spanish) = collective name for female external genitalia, especially labia minora and vagina (which at times somewhat resemble a shell/concha)
bush = vulva or vagina, particularly references pubic hair
tush = vulva, more particularly including buttocks and/or anus
Y-front, YMCA, or the Y = female frontal nudity; resembles shape of the letter Y
tail = (1)vulva, (2)male or female buttocks/anus, or (3)copulation
vulva, particularly unshaved: hair or fur pie, furry fanny, bearded clam, fuzzy
beaver vulva, more particularly labia and vagina: box or ball-box, baby-hole or hole, cunt or cunny, honey pot, hose bag, minge, muff, nookie or nuckie, poon tang, pudenda (from pudendum; note, however, that "pud" usually refers to penis), snatch, taco, tuna or tuna-fish or fishie, twat, gash, the pink, pussy, concha female mons pubis: mons, the hump, mound or pussy mound, forest, bushland

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Odd words

kinky = mode of sexual activity which is considered to be either/or (1)very arousing and desirable, or (2)unusual and abnormal. A very idiosyncratically-defined term.
stuffing = inserting objects into vagina or anus
snuffing = sex play which results in death; e.g., a snuff scene involves someone
being killed while involved in [painful or violent] sexual activities
tv or TV = transvestite
cross-dressing = wearing clothing typical of the opposite sex, often clandestinely
drag = wearing clothing and make-up typical of the opposite sex; so as to appear to actually be of the opposite sex
T & A = "Tits and Ass" usually in reference to displays of the female body (e.g.,
strippers or dancers); often references objectified female sexuality in general
ts or TS or T-person = transsexual; the more current terminology is Transgendered.
S & M = Sadistic and Masochistic sexual stimulation (sadomasochism)
B & D = Bondage and Discipline, a type of sadomasochistic sexual interaction
C P = Corporal Punishment, a type of B&D/sadomasochistic sexual interaction
D & S = Dominance and Submission, terms which are preferred to use to reference sadomasochistic sexual interaction
vanilla = (1)conventional sexual relations, (2)any sexual interaction that does not
include sadomasochistic/D&S sexual play
BDSM = A single collection of overlapping initials intended to identify three
components of erotic power play - BD, DS, and SM at once ; also see What do you mean BDSM? Also see excerpts from
sexuality.org, from alt.sex, and alt.sex.bondage FAQs 1, 2, 3
Brown Showers (BS) = using feces (scat) in an erotic context.
C&B or CBT = cock and ball torture; intense stimulation of the male genitals more
often associated with pain, bondage, endurance, etc.
Caning = Use of a cane, a flexible rod. Very intense and leaves more pronounced marks.
Collar = band of leather, metal, cloth, etc. encircling the neck; signifies a bottom role
Consensual = based on mutual agreement; not coerced; one of the three cornerstones
of social SM play: Safe, Sane & Consensual
Dominance = controlling and directing the scene

shitter or crapper = (1)anus or (2)toilet
moon or to "shoot the moon" = expose the buttocks, usually in jest
peds = feet and toes, as sexual objects
Chester or bugger = child molester
sorted = arrangements have been completed
nish = nothing/none/no more
date = an event of prostitution, as in: "Hey sailor, looking for a date?"dibble = a close brush with the authorities/police
kickin’ =wonderful, great
Renton = very short hair style (after protagonist Renton’s haircut in the movie
Trainspotting -- same actor and similar hair style popularized in Star Wars
Phantom Menace); considered sexy
large it = to have a good time, enjoy one’s self, experience orgasm
vada = to look at or closely examine
mental = bizarre, kinky, or out of control (previously meaning undesirable, but increasingly refers to desirability)
nasty = sexual desire or behavior, most often indiscriminate
horny = sexually aroused
naughty = sexual behavior or desire
randy or raunchy = strong sexual desire/arousal and indiscriminate sexual behavior
rampant = indiscriminate near-uncontrolled sexual behavior
rude = sexual desire or behavior which is demanding, inconsiderate and/or
indiscriminate
plumpers = sexually desirable obese persons
Betty Dodson = to masturbate while being observed and/or encouraged (in reference to the famous therapist who conducts group self-stimulation seminars; see her book
pervies = male and female persons interested in indiscriminate sexuality
clergy = [derogatory] persons considered to have sexual hang-ups
punters = [derogatory] persons who observe a stripper, dancer or pornographic
movie (and masturbate while observing, or later)
tea room = a restroom used for hustling and fellacio
trollop = person interested in indiscriminate sexual interaction
tart = person interested in indiscriminate sexual interaction, often for hire
‘ho (whore) or puta = prostitute
slut = person who seeks for and/or participates in indiscriminate sexual behavior, but usually not in reference to being for hire
suck face or smackin’ or mackin’ = deep kissing, French kissing, tongue kissing foreplay: necking, petting, make out, scoring, operating, play around or fool around, dry humping, playing "doctor," get serious, get down to business, get hot or hot & bothered, warm up, pre-game show, taxi for take-off

The Swingers Sexual Terms Guide

A

AC/DC: bisexual
Adult: euphemism for pornographic
All Cultures: person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities.
Anal: anal intercourse. See Greek, Greek Culture
Animal Training: sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women.
Arts: euphemism for fetishes.

B
B: black person
B & D: bondage (binding a person with rope or restraints) and discipline
Bestiality: sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women
Bi bisexual: (more-or-less equally interested in individuals of both sexes)
Bicurious: not sure if they're bisexual, but willing to give it a try
Bisexual: more-or-less equally interested in individuals of both sexes
Bizzare: unusual sexual desires; way out
Bondage: a sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive"

C
Can Entertain: willing to invite others to their home for swinging
Can Travel: prefer not to have you at our house (usually due to kids at home)
Caning: a spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or light wood
Cheating: sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and consent
Clean: hygienic; free of sexually transmitted diseases
Closed Door: see Closed Swinging
Closed Swinging: intercouple sex between couples in different rooms
Closet Swinger: a person who hides the he/she is a swinger.
Couple in swinging: a man and a woman. may be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes; cpl
Cpl: couple
Culture: euphemism for fetish, arts. See English Culture, Greek Culture,
Crossdresser: enjoys wearing clothes of opposite sex
Cunnilingus: stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips and sometimes the teeth (see French Culture)


D
Dildo: an artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus
Director: the term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally call a manager
Discipline: a sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings
Discretion: asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity
Docile: willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see Submissive)
Domestic Training: submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
Dom: see Dominant
Dominant: the sexual partner in control of the willing submissive partner


E
Entertain: (see Can Entertain)
Exhibitionist: a person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.
Exotic Styles: refers to quite a different form of fetish or erotic clothing
English: usually involves discipline, for example: caning, flagellation, whipping
English Culture: sexual stimulation from spanking or caning

F
F; female
Fellatio: sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth
Fetish: sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy
Flagellation: sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
French: oral sex; genital or anal
French Culture: oral-genital sexual activity
Fun and Games: euphemism for sexual activity

G
G: gay person (male or female) interested in individuals of the same sex. A gay female may also be called a lesbian
Generous: usually means that money is exchanged for sex
Golden Showers: urination on another person
Greek: anal-penile intercourse
Greek Culture: anal-penile intercourse
Group Room: room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in Western US (see matroom).
Group Sex: swinging; social-sexual activity between three or more people.
Growth Swinging: social-sexual environment that promotes emotional, personal and social growth

H
Hard Core: a swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected
Hard Swinging: see Hard Core
Head: oral-genital sexual activity; "giving head"
Hedonist: euphemism for a swinger; lives for pleasure
Heterosexual: sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex
Homosexual: sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (see Gay)
Horny: sexually tense; in need of sexual pleasure.
Humanist: person who believes in human values, potential, self-respect of the individual, personal freedom and human rights
Hung: refers to a man with a large penis

I
Indoor Sports: swinging activities in general.
Interested in Friendship: seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads


L
Leather: a fetish; sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments
Leathercraft: interest in leather fetishism
Lesbian: a woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women (see Gay)

M
M: male
Marital Aids: dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
Masochism: sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
Master/Slave: participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship (see B&D, bondage, discipline)
Matroom: room set aside for group sex. Principally an Eastern US term (see Group Room).
Meet for Pleasure: will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity. Used chiefly in personal ads and letters in answer to personal ads.
Menage A' Trois: three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. See Threesome, Triad
Moresomes: more than three people in a swinging interaction.


N
NASCA: the North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become, to give a national voice to the growing swinging community and to promote the development of ethical swing clubs. Levels of members: Affiliate club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research
Newcomers: new people in swinging; first-timers
Nonsmoker: does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

O
O: oriental person
open door see Open Swinging
Open Swinging: a couple swinging with another couple in the same room; several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western US) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party.
Oral-Genital: see Cunnilingus, Fellatio, Head
Orgy: sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; see Group Sex


P
Party: gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging
Party Clothes: clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party the latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play
Party House: (Western US): a non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
Passive: quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. docile and submissive in swinging (see discipline)
Photo: interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others
Photography: interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs
Polaroid: interest on erotic photos (but no negatives involved)
P/P: photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
Pro: professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.


R
Roman: group sex, orgies
Roman Culture: sexual orgies
Recreational Swinger: a person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment
Restraint: mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments
Rubber: condom means of contraception. Sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D

S
S&M: sadomasochism: giving (sadism) or receiving (masochism) pain or discomfort
Safe: used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy. Also refers to a rubber or condom
Same Room Sex: intercouple sex between couples in same room
SASE: self-addressed stamped envelope.
Sgl single person.
Shaved: usually most or all of the pubic area
Single: a swinger without a partner, single or married.
Social: a party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. there is no swinging at a social but privately arranged swinging may follow a social
Social Swing Club: a swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important
Soft Swinging: a social, erotic swing party environment where sexual activity is common and available, but not required or assumed. Sometimes used to describe swapping up to, but not including intercourse. The term developed in Southern California in the early 1970's. See Hard Swinging, Hard Core
STD: sexually transmitted disease. a term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. these social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem
Str: straight (ie not gay - hetrosexual)
Straight: non-swinger; a swinger who is not interested in same sex sexual activity; a person who does not use drugs; non bisexual, non-gay
Student: the submissive role during English scenario
Submissive: see Passive
Sub submissive: plays the passive, controlled role during scenario
Submissive: plays the passive, controlled role during scenario
Swapping: two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity
Swedish Culture: use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate
Swing Magazine: a periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community
Swinging: social-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved
Swinging Lifestyle: style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships
Swinging Marriage: marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals

T
Teacher: the dominant role during English scenario
Threesome: three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a' trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship
Ticket: a person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the man to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing
Toys: sexual aids. See Marital Aids
Travel: see Can Travel
Triad: three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. not the same as a threesome
Triolism: used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage. See Triad
Tubal Ligation: surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. A method of contraception. Also called a band aid operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation
TV: transvestite: a male who enjoys dressing up and impersonating a female

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Utopian Swinger: a person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals

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Vasectomy: surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile; a method of contraception
Versatile: bisexual. See AC/DC
Vibrator: electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another
Voluptuous: fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips
Voyeur: a person who enjoys and is stimulated by watching others in sexual acts
Voyeurism: the act of being a voyeur

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W: white person
Sex Toy Terms

Anal Beads: A string of small balls on a string. Designed to be inserted into the anus and pulled out to create sexual stimulation.

Aphrodisiac: Any device, product or stimulant that ehances sexual desire and performance

Ben-Wa Balls: A pair of large marbles with ball bearings inside that roll around and create subtle vibrations when inserted into the vagina.

Blow-Up Doll: A life-size doll often sold as a novelty, but ostensibly for use as a surrogate partner.

Butt Plug: A dildo specially designed for insertion into the anus. Usually has a flared base to prevent it from going in too far.

Butterfly: A vibrator that is designed to be worn against the body using straps.

Cock Ring: A strap of leather, rubber or metal that is placed around the base of the penis (and sometimes, testicles) to promote firmer erections and for decoration.


Clitoral Stimulator: A vibrator that is designed to be worn against the body using straps.

Dildo: Any cylindrically shaped object used for sexual stimulation (usually via insertion).

Double Dildo (Double Dong): A double-ended dildo. Can be used by two individuals simultaneously.

Erection Ring: A strap of leather, rubber or metal that is placed around the base of the penis (and sometimes, testicles) to promote firmer erections and for decoration.

Extender: A device designed to be attached to the end of the penis, giving the appearance of greater length.

French Tickler: A condom with extra latex, plastic or rubber attachments. Used as a novelty only. Usually not certified for birth control or disease prevention.

Harness: Used to attach a strap-on.

Latex: A form of PVC most similar to plastic. A material commonly used in the manufacture of sex toys.

Lubricant: Lotion that is designed to enhance slipperiness.Can be used for intercourse or masturbation. Recommended for post-menopausal women and condom users.

Marital Aid: Any sex toy.

Massager: A vibrator that is sold to relax sore muscles.

Masturbator: A device used by men to assist in masturbation. Often shaped like a vagina, which is known as a sleeve.

Nipple Clamps: Small clips designed to be attached to the nipples. Often attached with a chain.

Penis Pump: A vacuum erection device. After inserting the penis, a suction is applied, drawing the blood into the penis, creating an erection (often of a more engorged size than usual).

Penis Sleeve: See Masturbator.

PPA: Prosthetic Penis Attachment. See Extender. Realistic dildo modeled after an actual penis.

Sexual Aid/Sex Toy: A catch-all term for any device used for sexual stimulation.

Silicone: An expensive, quality material used to make high-end toys.

Strap-On: A dildo or vibrator that is attached via a harness (generally in the genital region).

Vibrator: Any device that uses batteries or AC current to create a vibration. Most often used by women to stimulate the clitoris.

Age play: role playing involving pretending to be a child and often wearing children's clothing. Adult babies.
Androgyne: a person psychologically intermediate between male and female; or a person who rejects a specifically male or female gender role.

Androgynous: having elements of both a male and a female personality; may also refer to appearance and dress. Androgyny.

Berdache: male-to-female and female-to-male crossdressers who were accepted and performed a variety of roles in various North American Indian societies. The word in its original language is negative, so one sociologist writing about these individuals has used the the terms man-woman and woman-man.

Bisexual: a person sexually attracted to both sexes.

Bull dagger: an extremely masculine lesbian. The term is often used negatively.

Butch: a masculine-appearing person. Often used to describe an assertive, somewhat masculine lesbian.

Camp: an affectation usually done in humor which might involve a satirical or sarcastic depiction of the opposite sex.

CD: crossdresser, crossdressing.

Cherry: represents the Virgin Goddess, also used in the title of the book Cherry Single, which can be read on this web site (I'm shameless).

Closeted: hiding one's sexuality or gender predilection from others or the public. Closet case.

Come out: to tell others about one's hidden sexual or gender orientation. May involve only closest friends, or family members and employer.

Crossdresser: a person who occasionally dresses in the clothing of the opposite sex for sexual or emotional pleasure, or both. The most commonly-used term, having replaced transvestite. May be male or female, hetero- or homosexual, bi- or solosexual, and may partially or wholly cross-dress.

Depilation: removal of hair. Transsexuals often use electrolysis.

Domination: sexual role playing involving power over another. See also: masochism. Bondage and domination, or BD, B/D.

Dominatrix: the dominating female partner in a sadomasochistic relationship, sometimes a paid professional.

Drag: crossdressing, especially in public or in a performance. Drag queen, drag king.

Dyke: once used to indicate a butch (masculine role) lesbian, but now referring to any lesbian.

Effeminate: having the qualities of a woman, or a man having feminine mannerisms or personality. Effeminism.

Female impersonator: a man portraying a woman in a public performance.

Feminine: a highly subjective concept of the essential qualities of a woman.

Femme: a feminine-appearing person, usually used to describe a woman.

Fetish: a specific object or body part capable of creating sexual arousal; examples are high heels, leather, feet and certain fabrics. Fetishism, fetishistic.

FTM: female to male, as in crossdressing or a transsexual.

Gay: one who prefers sex with another of the same sex.

Gender: the social-cultural expression of a person's biological sex (or self-perception of one's sex, which may vary from the strictly biological). Sometimes used to mean expressly male or female.

Gender identity: the self-perception of being male or female, or a combination of the two.

Gender dysphoria: condition when one's perception of one's gender doesn't match one's biological sex ("I am a man in a woman's body").

Genderfuck: sending mixed gender messages, especially through appearance, such as wearing a prom dress, combat boots and a mustache.

Gender outlaw: a person who flouts the usual gender roles.

Gender role: culturally accepted behavior indicating a male or female.

Hermaphrodite: a person biologically between female and male, sometimes with genital and /or reproductive body parts of both sexes. More in favor: intersexual.

Homosexual: one who prefers sex with another of the same sex.

Intersexual: a person biologically between female and male, sometimes with genital and/or reproductive body parts of both sexes. Replaces hermaphrodite. At one time meant homosexual.

Lesbian: a woman or male-to-female post-operative transsexual preferring sex with a woman.

Macho: describing extreme masculinity which may involved the subordination of women. Machismo.

Masculine: a highly subjective concept of the essential qualities of a man.

MTF: male to female, as in crossdressing or a transsexual.

Pansexual: involving all gender variations, sexual orientations and activities.

Pansy: negative term for a boy or man having feminine qualities.

Passing: crossdressing well enough to be seen as a member of the opposite sex.

Queen: as distinct from a drag queen, a gay crossdresser often looked up to by other gay men as an organizer and social locus.

Petticoat discipline: punishing or humiliating a boy by dressing him as a girl.

Power exchange: sexual role-playing when one acts as the dominant and the other the submissive.

Sadomasochism: inflicting and receiving pain, often to produce sexual excitement. See also: domination. Masochism, SM, S&M, S/M.

Sex: other than having sex, one's biological assignment as male or female, or in between (see intersexual).

Sex hormones: substances produced by the testes, ovaries and adrenal glands in different quantities in females and males which promote bodily sexual characteristics. Certain hormones artificially taken by men can grow breasts. Other hormones taken by women can grow facial hair and lower the voice.

Sex reassignment surgery: surgery to change, within the limits of surgical possibility, a person's